My entire life, treating people the way I wanted to be treated was always my default go-to. I wanted kindness, so I was kind. I wanted to be treated fairly, so I was fair, etc.
However, life has shown me that no matter how good my intentions were for behaving that way, it wasn’t always a good idea.
Yes, being too nice is a thing and the Pisces in me didn’t realize for the longest that my being too nice at times worked against me. That it gave the impression to people that I was a doormat, a fool or easy to get over on.
I have always been aware of the people who took my kindness for weakness, and in my younger years, I would just smile through it and continue being nice, even though inside it hurt me.
Then one day as an adult, I snapped.
It was like I did a complete 180 and started treating people the way they treated me, or at the very least, curbing my kindness so as not to be walked over. But, I did so to an extreme.
I am grateful for the realization that balance and harmony works far better than living at extremes. For the times I allowed myself to be used, trampled upon and disrespected, I am actually grateful. The discomfort I felt was indicative of me being on the wrong path. It forced me to grow. I am also grateful for the times I held my kindness back and gave people only what they gave me. I had to do that to find balance. I had to do that to get here.
And here is a place where I am nice because it brings me joy to be that way. Here is a place also, where it is ok for me to give some folk who have offered their asses up for me to kiss, mine to kiss as well. Balance has been found and damn does it feel good.